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Sunday 15 February 2015

ITS OK TO HAVE CERTAIN EXPECTATIONS

I'm home! After two weeks in Perth I am home and it feels so good to be in my own house and to sleep in my own bed.

Just an update on how Ashton is going- in a word FANTASTICALLY. She looks great and sounds great and is busily studying for a university exam next Tuesday. My daughter is amazing. She has just had a seven hour embolisation procedure and she has bounced back into study and an exam.Still one procedure to go but still waiting for a time to be given to us.

My other daughter Ciara is pretty fantastic too! She works her butt off and this week on top of her part time jobs will be back on stage in a production called # A Little Rain must fall. I am so excited to see her back on stage and Mark and I will be going back to Perth to see her next Saturday. So that gives me five whole days at home!

Love, love, love my children.

Which leads me to the whole topic of Valentines Day and expectations. I try every year not to have expectations but just once I would love to open the door to a dozen red roses being delivered to me. I'm 48  and we've been married almost 24 years, so how long do I have to wait? Probably for ever!

Being on a budget this year I made my hubby a batch of Nutella brownies and bought a cute card for him. My husband is the best at choosing cards so I have learned to lift my game in this area. I waited for him to arrive from Geraldton and he walked in and said " Happy Valentines day" (good) , gave me a big hug and kiss (better) and immediately said " I got you nothing" (bad...very, very bad). Not even a card!

Now maybe its the gruff method of delivery but I got so, so upset. I have no idea why I got so upset but as my face dropped, he noticed pretty quickly. See, I believe that no matter how busy you are, you always find time to do certain things - ring people for birthdays, smile at people, attend special gatherings AND buy at least a card for Valentines day. OR, pinch a flower from someones garden for them OR walk in and say " I haven't had time to buy you anything but you know how much I love you".

It's all about the delivery! Never walk in and in under a minute say " I got you nothing". Its terrible!

Anyway, the reason I love my husband is because he hates to see me upset and does everything in his power to remedy his foot in mouth disease. Later while I had a nap he went off to the supermarket and returned with roses and a card. The card made me laugh out loud. The front said something about us clicking, but his comment is what got me laughing - "one click and I got you flowers!" See that's all it takes, a corny card or a verbal card. The supermarket roses - too late buttercup! Thanks for trying to remedy the situation but too late.

We agreed to go out for dinner, but of course everywhere was booked.As a last resort, I suggested we get takeaway and eat at home and he agreed. By the time the food was ready to pick up he was fast asleep. No problem! He had driven a long way, so I went to get the curry. I came back and he was still asleep, but I woke him up for our Valentines day dinner in the courtyard.


I set the table with my supermarket roses and we ate our curry and rice together under the stars. It was lovely and our daughter even went out and bought some red wine for us!

So, the moral of the story is - you don't have to spend lots of money on someone for Valentine's Day. Its nice if you can, but its not important. What is important is showing people how much they mean to you. Words chosen well and simple actions mean so much more - well to me anyway!

And by the way the Nutella brownies were yummy for dessert!

Till next time...xxx

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BY POPULAR DEMAND:

2-ingredient Nutella brownies by diethood.com.
Ingredients
1 cup of nutella
4 large eggs
1. Preheat oven to 175.
2. Line an 20cmx20cm brownie pan with baking paper; set aside.
3. Place the eggs in your mixer’s bowl and beat for 5 to 7 minutes, or until the eggs have tripled in size. This may take up to 10 minutes with a handheld mixer on high.
4. Heat the Nutella in the microwave for 60 seconds (in a microwave proof bowl).
5. Remove and stir.
6. Slowly pour a stream of the warm Nutella over the eggs, beating until mixture is thoroughly combined.
7. Pour batter into prepared pan and bake for 30 to 35 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the middle comes out with very few crumbs.
8. Remove and let completely cool before cutting.
9. Dust with icing sugar. (Optional)
10. Cut into bars and serve.

Read more at http://www.mamamia.com.au/lifestyle/2-ingredient-nutella-brownies/#TBk1oh9W2lJyjkDh.99




25 comments:

  1. I think it's fantastic that you still found a way to celebrate your love, even if it wasn't the "norm". (And those brownies sound delicious!!!)

    -Anastasia Ivy

    http://ivyoverjoyed.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks Anastasia. I appreciate you stopping by.

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  2. I agree showing the person you love you care can be done in so many more ways than just spending lots of money and showing you care is a year round thing...not something just for a Hallmark holiday!

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    1. Agree entirely Lisa. It actually used to be a religious celebration before it got commercialised.

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  3. Thanks for joining the #chainlinkyCLIMB! Glad you clicked, and got dinner!

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    1. Isn't he funny? He clicked and got me flowers! I got the bloody dinner cos he fell asleep. Oh well, 24 years marriage...should be used to this by now.
      Maybe just one year a dozen red roses delivered!

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  4. thanks for linking up to #mummymonday ! I agree lots of ways rather than spending lots of ££. OO nutella brownies! Yum! x

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    1. My husband just finished telling me he doesn't like Nutella! Now the truth comes through!

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  5. Seems many husbands fall victim to foot in mouth disease this time of year. ;) Glad yours recovered so quickly and you were able to enjoy those brownies! Yum!

    Thanks for linking to the Oh My Heartsie Girls party this week. I hope we see you again on Wednesday!

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  6. My pleasure. See you next week.

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  7. I love the brownie recipe and am glad that you saved the day. I have very high expectations of certain dates, which I add to my husband's calendar with reminders, which means he has no excuse. As Moms we do so much for our families that they should remember certain dates, I think that's just fair. #twinklytuesday

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    1. hanks for the brownie recipe and it was good that your hubby made it up in the end with cards and roses. My husband doesn't remember dates like these (or faces, or people's names) so we have worked out ways to work around it. And as I said in my blog takeaway is often the best choice on a day when everything is super high priced just because restaurants can charge extra for that one day. Thanks for reading my blog too. More coming! http://haslaptopwilltravel.blogspot.co.uk/2015/02/love-is-all-aroundbut-lets-eat-burgers.html x Jessica

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  9. I think I've only received roses or any kind of flowers for that matter maybe twice in my life. Once on my 21st birthday from a guy I was dating (we broke up same day he gave me roses) and again just this past December from a total stranger when they learned I had just been diagnosed with cancer. On another note, those nutella brownies sound delish!

    Thank you for tossing your hat into the ring at the Party Under The Big Top! We hope to see you again next week! #BigTopBlogParty

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    1. A dozen red roses before I die...
      Flowers from a stranger is so lovely. I too have had cancer so I hope you are doing well.

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  10. A card and flowers (delivered on time) are really all us women need on valentines day hehe! It's always me that doesn't get anything for the other half but he always buys me flowers as he knows that even though I say don't waste money, I love them! I'm glad your daughter is doing so well and good luck to the other for her production :) Thanks so much for linking up to #twinklytuesday xx

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    1. All the comments on this blog show me that women world wide are all the same!

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  11. My husband gets me flowers and a card every year, and some years he gets me candy, occasionally I get paint, or a gift card to an art supply store! :)
    This year we also went out to eat, and I gave him a hand painted card and chocolates!

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    1. And this is how it should be. So delighted for you xxx

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  12. I guess I am spoiled because my husband buys me a dozen roses regularly but then again he is the first man in my life to ever do so! However, this Valentine's Day was the first time I have ever received a card from him and I was completely shocked! I don't think it's too much to expect a dozen roses on Valentine's Day at all and I really hope that he comes through for you next year as you so deserve them! Oh, and those Nutella Brownies sound delish! I love Nutella and often have to hide it when I buy it because if it was up to the family it would be eaten that very same day!

    Thank you for joining us and linking up to Party Under the Big Top! Hope to see you again next time!

    Wishing you a fabulous week!

    Much love,
    Lysa xx
    Welcome to My Circus
    #BigTopBlogParty

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    1. Next year I think I will send them to myself. Hope your day is better than yesterday xxxx

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  13. Suzi you are amazing and so are your family. I also do not need money spent on me to know I am loved, but always open to being spoilt! Thanks for linking on ##wednesdayswisdom.

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    1. Jen, its all in the words! So glad you managed to leave a comment xx

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